Friends are a very important part of life I think. I don't have a "best" friend as such, but I do have a small group of friends that, I have to say, I absolutely adore because they've put up with a lot from me - from my going on about my writing to my whining when I received agent rejections to my incessant hijacking of Facebook for the marketing of my books! But, even though we don't speak every day, and we very rarely see each other in person because we all live quite far apart, I know they're always there. At least, I hope they are because they've all been very quiet lately and sometimes my paranoia comes out to play and I think they're avoiding me!!
But it's why places like Facebook and Twitter are very important to someone like me. They're not just an important marketing tool for my books, they're also a lifeline to stop me from going completely loopy! They're where I go to speak to people, to keep in contact with my friends, and without social networking I'd be lost. Absolutely lost. As a writer you sometimes spend large chunks of time cutting yourself off from everything and everyone else so you can concentrate totally on creating characters and stories and immersing yourself in that make-believe world, but you can't do that for too long because you start to go slightly stir crazy after a few hours! You need a little release, a little escape, and sometimes 5 or 10 minutes prattling on about how particularly bad 'Eastenders' is at the minute (even with David Essex in it) and having a laugh over owt and nowt can really lighten your mood, because you suddenly realise that you aren't on your own, that there are people out there. So they're very important to me, social networking sites. And so are my friends. I just want them to know that, incase they're reading this!
|Keanu Reeves - necessary escapism.|
So, anytime I need a real dose of escapism that doesn't involve logging onto a computer, 'Point Break' gets an airing and I'm quite happy to sit on the sofa and mouth every line along with Keanu. It's either that or 'Mamma Mia' because I also have a huge crush on Pierce Brosnan, which does tend to disappear for a good few minutes whilst he's murdering 'SOS', but that's another movie that gives me a much needed boost. Every time I see it it makes me smile and that's good. That helps.
But, back to the subject of friends, because without them you lose a lot of much needed support in life and sometimes we all just need a little kick up the backside, a little bit of encouragement. We just need to know that someone is there if we ever need them. That's all.
And, thanks to facebook and Twitter, there is also the opportunity for me to gain not just fans (fans!! I should be so lucky!!) and people who may like my books, but also to gain new friends. Because I'm beginning to realise that, in this day and age, you can have great friends that you don't need to see every day thanks to the wonders of the internet and social networking. So I hope to meet many more new people in the future, and make many more new friends with shared interests and similar outlooks on life, because that's what it's all about, isn't it? Social networking. Meeting new people, making new connections. And some may even turn into people you will know for the rest of your life, who can tell?
But, before I lapse into some kind of personal phsycology session I'll bring this rambling blog to a close. My point was (because I'm sure I had a point when I started this) that we all need something else to take us away from work or the drudgery of everyday life. We all need an escape, we all need people to talk to. We all need friends. And no matter where we find them or how we discover those friends, it's just good to have them around. And I, for one, never take them for granted.
And should anyone out there want to get in touch with me via Twitter or Facebook, you can find me here. Frequently... https://twitter.com/#!/michellebetham or https://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.432090052040.207734.530097040#!/profile.php?id=530097040 or my Facebook Author page (I'm quite sensible on here - but I do need more people to 'Like' me so if you feel like doing that...) https://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.432090052040.207734.530097040#!/pages/Michelle-Betham-Author-of-Romantic-Fiction-Chick-Lit/123901564359634
Right, time to think about lunch...maybe with Keanu...